1-on-1 With Stephen Part II

One thing I noticed about him, even though he didn't explicitly state it, is that he spoke very visually and kinesthetically that I could see why he's soo captivating. Add that skill with all the interesting tidbits about your life, and you're most likely the most interesting person people will ever perceive. I also noticed that Stephen was VERY Knowleagable, he has a huge vocabulary, and that added to his genuine curiosity and vibe, because as he was interlacing stories and baiting things about my life, he described everything in his Own words and using his own Descriptive words, which totally made it looked like he owned the experience and my life. Stephen has this quality because he's not only intelligent but he himself lives an interesting life, he's seen and travelled to many areas in the world, has lived and experienced many things, and his life seems so lively and fullfilling that he just never runs out of things to talk about.

This is EXACTLY why CEIC always encourages guys to challenge themselves, to actually live an interesting life instead of taking someone elses material and use it. It's a lot better to actually be congruent with your words with actions, since Stephen strongly emphasizes, "A girl will know that you've been faking it all afterwards, once you've dropped all the routines and the robotic performance, what have YOU got to show?" which is an EXCELLENT point to make. I am very fortunate to reach him first before I took any other workshop before, because I've seen and spoken to some wings, and some of them look completely mechanical and took the word ALPHA to whole a different meaning.

One thing I noticed about his difference between his approach and Juggler's method is the frame control. Juggler emphasizes that the girl or the group of people should be interesting, and your job is to make them look like it by charming and complimenting the set. Stephen on the other hand emphasizes that you should be interesting as well as steering the conversation in the art of relation, that you relate to everybody, and the frame should be in your world at first, to create a context and a vision of how your world looks like because in order for anyone to start a relationship, any relationship (business, girlfriend, friend, etc....), because to start ANY relationship each person HAS to get to know each other first. By opening yourself to get a girl to know you through baiting and storytelling, a picture of your world plants into the girl's head and she now has an idea of how your world is like, your personality, and values. In addition to that, add a little flirting, you have a strong chance of generating attraction. Juggler and Stephen both also emphasizes genuine compliments instead of using the most overrated tool, the neg. By complimenting her genuinely, you actually ease her and get her to open up, by showing you're actually focusing on the person and not on her looks. Add that with a nice, authentic, and gentlemanly demeanor, and you most likely won’t even NEED a neg because there won’t be a bitch shield to encounter.

He then broke down the truth about the bitch shield, and the reason why women puts it up is it’s because they don’t TRUST you the minute talk to her. That’s why he emphasizes not to dress outlandishly, and not to dress too conservative either, but to tailor your style to one the type of women you want to attract to your life. By dressing outlandishly and eye captivating in a way that you are “peacocking,” it’s an obvious signal to women that YOU are trying to get their attention. Stephen says that women of high quality would think you’re dressed childishly and immaturely.

Part III to continue......