A Clear Definition of "Smooth"

smooth
Pronunciation: 'smü[th]
1 : Having a surface free from irregularities, roughness, or projections
2 : free from difficulties or impediments
3 : even and uninterrupted in flow or flight
4 : excessively and often artfully suave : INGRATIATING

"The One" said in his 2005 Cliff's list presentation, "What does smooth mean? Look. Be smooth, man. Be suave. Be cool. But you can't quantify that. You can't explain that. How can you tell a guy who's not cool to be cool?"

Although he answers the question by teaching the principles of being playful, having fun, express yourself, etc, I think he only half-defined what smooth really MEANT. I believe that there are many guys in the seduction community that can consider themselves "Smooth" verbally, but I realized being smooth, or suave is not just a verbal attribute. The biggest underlying factor that will truly determine that you are smooth is Emotional Intelligence.

By the way this article is not about Touching or Escalating Smoothly, or suavely moving, this is about being smooth in a social interaction or a social setting. Usually this trait is IMPALPABLE, yet subtly noticeable.

Here are the REAL keys to being smooth:

1) Relaxed, Calm, and Poised Body Language.
2) Staying Cool and Calm even in the face of immediate distress.
3) Displaying that YOU are an Easy Person to talk to and being able to captivate and involve someone's attention.
4) Being SENSITIVE to Social energies and knowing how to amp or tone down the energy.
5) Being able to read Emotional Cues and knowing how to handle them.
6) Allowing yourself to be fully available to the person or group of people (BEING in the MOMENT), and allowing the "Flow" of the interaction to be steered and guided by you (Center of Attention).
7) Knowing what and how much energy to project.
8) Not being stuck in one emotional state of mind.

Let me Explain.

1) Relaxed, Calm, and Poised Body Language
Having a relaxed, calm body language shows you are open, easier to communicate with, and have the potential to be uneasily fazed in trying circumstances. Poised shows that are you assertive, composed, masculine, and dominant.

2) Staying Cool and Calm even in the face of immediate Distress.
Excercising emotional control in social interactions is VERY important. Social Status is partly determined based on how well you can keep yourself cool especially in threatening situations. This demonstrates leadership, masculinity, and assertiveness.

3) Displaying that YOU are an Easy Person to talk to and being able to captivate and involve someone's attention.
Imagine this. You are talking to a guy that's clearly really really mad at you and telling you his hundred reasons why he's soo pissed at you. He's not allowing you to talk and he's constantly talking about his problem with you. Or, in another situation, you know someone that can SPEAK, but speaks and doesn't captivate your interest or he's not allowing you to be more involved in the conversation. Would you consider these guys smooth at all?? I highly doubt anyone wants to be around a person that's hard to communicate with. Everyone wants to be able to demonstrate themselves to anybody and be accepted, as well as be involved in the interaction without being bored.

4) Being SENSITIVE to Social energies and knowing how to amp or tone down the energy.
Not paying too much attention to the social energy demonstrates insensitiveness. This shows that a person is out of context. For example, being too loud in a public library. It's also important to know when and how to amplify tone down the energy. Being able to do this shows leadership and effective caliberation.

5) Reading Emotional Cues and knowing how to handle them.
The ability to read emotional cues is an ETREMELY powerful skill. This is very helpful because this skill gives a good idea what current emotions a person is feeling. This helps you determine what tool to use in the interaction and what to do next. (i.e. knowing when the girl is attracted and moving to the comfort stage).

6) Allowing yourself to be fully available to the person or group of people (BEING in the MOMENT), and allowing the "Flow" of the interaction to be steered and guided by you (Center of Attention).
Being in your head too much is going to hurt your ability to be in the interaction and to lead the interaction.

7) Knowing what and how much energy to project.
In this case, it's about knowing what energy and how much energy to focus on to be in context of the topic. A good way to think about this is, imagine someone talking about a great adventure, yet he has a BORING tonality or isn't projecting adventurousness, enthusiasm, and happiness.

8) Not being stuck in one emotional state of mind.
Staying at a playful, fun state, a vulnerable state, a serious state, and not being able to transistion from one state to another will hurt your chances of projecting different sides of yourself. Being able to flexible is important especially when tuning yourself to different energies.

Becoming smooth is essentially getting into a "FLOW" state. Focusing just on verbal attributes is just not enough to become a REAL smooth operator. Verbal attributes can be developed through tons and tons of practice as well as developing and knowing topics and interest. But, essentially it boils down to having these traits/attributes within you and allowing yourself to be part of the wavelength of the interaction.

Notice that to get here, a lot of inner game issues must be resolved. To really have these characteristics of being smooth, it really must come from within and it will be externally projected automatically.